I am good at mulling things over. This can be a good quality— it leads to introspection, self knowledge, and considered action. But it can also lead to paralysis, and talking yourself out of things, and second-guessing.
So we all have a natual “set point” that we operate at— some people are impulsive, some people are like me. Some people have a ton of power, some are very flexible. And tempting as it is to do what we’re good at— and we should— what we often really need to work on is the other pole.
I sometimes have an impulse that says “yes!!” followed by a train of thought that systematically picks it apart, piece by piece. I have had the experience of seeing or thinking of something great— as an example, a race that looks like fun— deciding to think about it, and never following through (because i forgot, or thought I might not have time, or wasn’t sure I’d feel like it, or. . . ). I have also done the same thing, said “F it! I’m signing up!”, plunked down my 25 bucks then and there, and had a great time doing it. I need to remind myself to do the latter! I did this one time with a research conference— I had never been to one in my field before, and I didn’t have anything to present, but a professor suggested it was a great thing to do. Now, as an introvert, I find conferences challenging, to put it kindly. But I decided that I wanted to be the person who went to this, so I bought the plane ticket— before I had a chance to change my mind. That conference changed the course of my grad school career. When I get an idea like “I could do this!,” it’s this moment of great excitement. Something made the idea seem great— and that “thing” is usually right! Listen to it!
It’s scary to just dive in to something new, or something big. But then again, that’s where the biggest rewards are. It sounds like a cliche, I know, but it rings so true for me. Which is why I’m SO GLAD to have Yam joining me for a yoga workshop here in T-town (or “the ‘zone”, in twin-speak) in november— she just did it! I sent her the flyer to say, “yo, this would be cool, but it’s a pipe dream.” And you know what she said? “I’m in!”. That’s my girl!