be honest.

Going into a season of giving and consuming, and before we get to the part where we make grand plans about how to better ourselves, I have a mantra to ponder: BE HONEST. I don’t mean destroy the filter in your brain that tells you it might not be a good idea to say something. I... Continue Reading →

Politeness is complicated.

Politeness is a way to show respect and decency, empathy, even— but it can also be a place to hide. It’s polite to RSVP. It’s polite to let someone know if you’re running late. To offer them a drink when they come to your house. To anticipate someone's wants and needs and make an effort to... Continue Reading →

multifocal movement

It will not surprise you to know that I like to move. I tried all kinds of sports as a little kid. I’ve danced, run, biked, swam, body surfed, boxed, flowed, rowed, lifted. In motion is my happy place. Yet, true to form, I’ve never picked a single discipline and pursued it aggressively. Yes, reader,... Continue Reading →

being busy

Int., cafe. WOMAN enters, catches sight of OTHER WOMAN. WOMAN: OMG, it's been forever! how ARE you? OTHER WOMAN: Busy! Good, but So Busy!! WOMAN: I know, right? Where did this come from? I catch myself saying it all the time, whether it's true or not. Like it's a virtue. A badge of honor. Like... Continue Reading →

Compassion.

Ask yourself what’s missinig in contemporary news and discourse. What underlies divisiveness and hate speech. What makes some encounters (with a police officer, or a doctor, or someone you expect to care) so completely demoralizing. And what causes hopelessness and pain and substance use and. . . My answer: compassion is missing. When a person... Continue Reading →

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